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LGBTQ Relationships

Relationships are as different as the people in them. The same goes for lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender and queer/questioning (LGBTQ) relationships. There are qualities all healthy relationships should have and abuse is never one of them. No matter who you love or how you identify, everyone deserves a safe and healthy relationship.

Healthy LGBTQ Relationships

Your relationship should make you feel supported, respected, and equal – building you up instead of tearing you down. In a healthy relationship, you are able to enjoy your time together while being able to spend time apart, communicate about your thoughts and feelings without fear of how your partner will respond, and feel like you are able to be yourself without being pressured to change. When looking for signs of a healthy relationship, here are a few more things to look for if you are in a LGBTQ relationship: 

  • Respecting your partner’s name and gender pronouns

  • Supporting your partner’s gender identity and expression

  • Supporting your partner’s sexual orientation 

  • Feeling comfortable talking about boundaries (ex: physical, sexual, emotional)

Abuse in LGBTQ Relationships

Anyone can experience abuse in their relationships and LGBTQ relationships are no different. Statistics show that relationship abuse occurs at the same rates, and sometimes higher rates due to barriers to support, in LGBTQ relationships when compared to relationships that are not LGBTQ.

  • LGBTQ teens experience dating abuse more frequently than teens who do identify as LGBTQ. (Urban Institute)

In addition to common warning signs, there may be other signs present in LQBTQ relationships that indicate that a relationship is unhealthy or abusive:

  • Pressuring someone to be “out” or threatening to “out” them to other people

  • Using a person’s identity, orientation, expression to make them feel inferior or like they deserve the abuse

  • Telling someone their identity isn’t real, or that they aren’t a “real” man or woman

  • Restricting a person’s access to medication and affirming care (ex: hormones, counseling, birth control, PrEP/PEP)

  • Denying abuse based on the false belief that abuse only happens between a man and a woman

Barriers to Support

It can be challenging for anyone to seek help during or after an abusive relationship, but there can be additional obstacles for people who identify as LGBTQ. Shame, homophobia/transphobia/heterosexism, or the fear of being outed may keep someone from seeking support. There may be a fear of not being taken seriously because of the belief that dating/domestic violence does not occur in LGBTQ relationships or that the relationship isn’t a “real” relationship. Abusive partners can take advantage of these additional barriers to further the abuse happening in the relationship.

Providing Support

If you are wanting to support someone you care about that is LGBTQ and in an abusive relationship, here are a few things to keep in mind:

  • Empower them. Let them know that abuse is never their fault and support them in making decisions about what their next steps will be in getting help. Connect them with resources.

  • Be open. LGBTQ people can face a lot of judgment and discrimination. You can create a safer space by being willing to talk and not passing judgment. While some identities or language can be new to you, try to be open to other definitions and expanding what you know.

  • Challenge assumptions. The more we challenge our own assumptions, and think about how they influence our words and actions, the better allies we can be.

Carrollton Rainbow Inc. is a non-profit organization that hosts regular meetups and events in Carrollton, GA and the surrounding West Georgia area for fellowship with LGBTQ+ and allies.  Our signature events include our annual Carrollton Pride Festival, Carrollton Pride Prom and Carrollton Drag Shows. Additionally, Carrollton Rainbow partners with local venues and restaurants in Carrollton, GA and other organizations to provide a calendar of fun things to do in Carrollton, GA and fun things to do in West Georgia.  We host Q&As, ally-oriented workshops, and online guides to provide the best local LGBTQ+ resources possible as well as to create dialogue with the local communityCarrollton Rainbow believes that representation matters and participates annually in the Atlanta Pride Parade, UWG Homecoming Parade, Carrollton Christmas Parade, Carrollton Mayfest and Carrollton's 4th of July Parade. Our visibility allows others in the West Georgia LGBTQ+ community to live with confidence and pride and to celebrate our identity and shared cultural history.


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